Kick-ass Author #2 Who Writes About Shame, Vulnerability and Wholehearted Living (Who Is Not Brené Brown)

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While the concepts of shame, vulnerability and living wholeheartedly are central to Dr. Brené Browns research and writing, these themes are actually quite common in books. That’s because we are all drawn to ideas of rising up against the oppression of real or perceived limitations, and finding the courage (vulnerability) to radically live life according to our own rules.

My next pick for Kick-ass Author Who Writes About Shame, Vulnerability and Wholehearted Living is a perfect example:

Seth Godin,  What To Do When It’s Your Turn (And It’s Always Your Turn)

This book is for you if:  You’re a budding entrepreneur; you’re thinking of quitting your job to pursue a passion; you want to create art and put it out into the world; or, you long to get unstuck in any aspect of your life.

If I were translating this Seth Godin book into “Brené-ese”, I’d say this book is about showing up, being seen and living bravely. It’s about stepping into the arena, without armour or shame shields, ignoring the critics, the cheap seats and the box seats, while holding the value of courage to light the way.

You need to get this book into your library. Then you need to get a copy for your spouse. Another for your best friend. And then anyone you know who is about to graduate from college or university.

Why? Because this book is a trip.

First of all, Seth Godin is a master of witty, concise and inspiring writing. He is also, in his own words, someone who “mostly creates projects, many of which end up failing.” So he speaks from experience AND knows what is possible. Trust me, his writing will get you fired up, and “taking your turn” over and over, in new and different ways.

 

“When was the last time you did 

something for the first time?” Seth Godin

Secondly, this book is basically a piece of artwork in itself. Bright colours, provoking images and photographs, big fonts/little fonts, historical references and pop culture musings, stirring quotes and big questions like, “When was the last time you did something for the first time?” and “Are you taking it seriously or are you taking it personally?” and “When did you lose your voice?”  It’s part-coffee table/part-self help book, rolled into one.

But it’s the way Seth Godin made this book happen that I love, as its creation is the very illustration of what he preaches in the book. Godin didn’t go the traditional publishing route with this book, which would have been easy for him as the author of 17 bestsellers. Instead, he asked his online community if they would be interested in pre-purchasing the book, sight-unseen (I was one of thousands who said ‘yes’). He got the capital to publish the book from the pre-orders, then published it and shipped it directly to readers. Now there are over 100,000 copies in print.

Godin wanted to challenge the status quo of the “vertical publishing world” where publishers decide what gets published and how it gets distributed, and instead went for a horizontal approach, getting readers themselves involved in the creation of the book.

You may not find the word shame or wholehearted in this book, but the message and the book itself is ALL the stuff Brené Brown talks about:  feeling the fear of vulnerability and doing it anyway.

Get a taste of Seth Godin’s work by checking out his awesome blog. And you can order What To Do When It’s Your Turn here.

Pick up his book and tell me what you think in the comments below or on my Facebook Page!

 

The Work/Life Lab, Week #35: In Praise Of Early Deadlines

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Welcome to The Work/Life Lab: 52 Weeks of Daring Experiments To Shake Things Up and Learn More About Yourself At Work and Life

Experiment #35: In Praise of Early Deadlines

Duke Ellington said, “I don’t need time, I need a deadline.”

This past summer I realized that I, too, need a deadline. I don’t like to be pressured or panicked. I don’t like the feeling of out-of-control chaos. But I realized that I can get a lot of stuff done… even the stuff I didn’t think I was ready to get done… when I have a deadline. Over the summer, as I tackled packing and moving to a new house, planning a surprise party for my husband, and planning for my fall  Daring Way™ workshops, I kept reminding myself, “Don’t wait for it to be perfect. Don’t wait to be more prepared. Just pick a deadline and get it done.”

Then I read this superb post on Fizzle.co (which, by the way, you should subscribe to if you are starting a small business or just enjoy being informed and entertained by three funny, interesting and insightful guys who like to just give, give, give resources and ideas to aspiring entrepreneurs) about lessons learned from working with Seth Godin.  In the post, the author explained that Seth Godin’s mentality is not “what’s the latest possible date I can get this done?” but instead is, “when is the soonest possible date I could complete this project?”

Why bother asking yourself this question? Because you want to have impact on the world NOW, not later. Because you are losing out on opportunities waiting for all the conditions to be perfect. Or, at the very least, you want to get it off your plate and free up your time to start the other thing you really want to do.

So here’s this week experiment, which you can easily do with a project at work or at home:

  1. Pick something you’ve been meaning to do and haven’t yet done. Something that is hanging out on the side of your desk, so to speak, AND hanging over your head.
  2. Set the earliest possible deadline to get that project done.
  3. Then cut that deadline in half. If you’ve set a deadline of two weeks from now, the new deadline is one week from now.
  4. Get it done.

That’s it. Imagine having that project – the one that’s been nagging at you – checked off your list and out the door! Just do this for one project and see what the experience brings. Don’t wait for the perfect conditions. Don’t wait for you to be more ready. Ask yourself, do you really need to wait for someone else’s input? Do you really need to read one more book? Do you really need to wait until fall or winter?

Just see what it’s like to get a project done and off your plate without the conditions being “just so”. Does moving that deadline earlier spark your creativity? Do new opportunities present themselves? Do you feel a new sense of freedom? I would love to hear your experiences with this experiment, so leave me a message below or on my Facebook Page!

 

 

The Work Life Lab, Week #20: Quit

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Welcome to The Work Life Lab: 52 Weeks of Daring Experiments To Shake Things Up and Learn More About Yourself At Work

Experiment #20 – Quit

In this week’s Work Life Lab, I have one question for you: What do you need to quit?

In asking this question, I am making an assumption and that assumption is this: you have an unwavering desire to be extraordinary at something. Well, to be extraordinary at something, you need to put in a lot of heart and soul (and time and money) to live that dream. And if that’s the case, you’ll need to quit anything that is currently draining your resources, zapping your energy and drawing your attention away from that extraordinary something. 

Do you need to quit your current strategy? Do you need to quit some of your chosen tactics? Do you need to quit your current assumptions or perspectives? Do you need to quit a project? Do you need to quit your target market or product mix or service offering? Do you need to quit a system or framework? 

Do you need to quit your original goal? Do you need to quit a useless habit? Do you need to quit thinking that quitting equals failure?

 Forget the adage, “winners never quit and quitters never win.” As Seth Godin reminds us in his book, The Dip, quitting is not a moral failing. Instead, he says,

“Quit the wrong stuff.  Stick with the right stuff.  Have the guts to do one or the other.”

What’s the wrong stuff you need to quit so that you can refocus your efforts on the right stuff?